These can be customized; they are not mandatory but help structure the power exchange.
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| Step | What to Do | Why It Matters | |------|------------|----------------| | | Sit down (or video chat) with your submissive (sub) and discuss fantasies, limits, experience level, and any medical/psychological concerns. | Sets the groundwork for trust and ensures both parties are on the same page. | | Negotiation Sheet | Create a written “Play Contract” covering: • Hard limits (non‑negotiables) • Soft limits (may be explored with caution) • Desired activities and scenes • Safe‑word(s) and non‑verbal signals (e.g., “traffic light” system) • Duration, frequency, and after‑care expectations | A written record reduces mis‑communication and can be revisited if boundaries shift. | | Safe Word System | • Red – stop immediately. • Yellow – slow down, check in, maybe modify. • Green – all good, continue. (If speech is impossible, use a pre‑agreed non‑verbal cue like a tap or a hand squeeze.) | Allows the sub to communicate their state instantly, even if they can’t speak. | | Check‑Ins | Quick “how are you?” before, during (especially after a yellow), and after each scene. | Reinforces that the power exchange is a partnership, not a unilateral command. | These can be customized; they are not mandatory